Narcissim

Narcissists are attracted to people who are empathic, compassionate, and nurturing who can be easily manipulated and have weak boundaries. Often targeting those who have past trauma (abuse or abandonment) acting as the “savior” to gain trust and dependency. Trauma bonding feels like love because your nervous system confuses it as safety. The highs after lows, the calm after chaos, apologies after abuse.

Stress hormones increase and bonding chemicals rush in. This constantly creates attachment to the person causing you harm. This is not weakness. It is a survival response. They often create chaos, try to play the hero, then act like the victim walking away as if they have won.

I slowly watched myself go from the happiest most outgoing person to slowly losing myself. I was a shell of what I had been, fighting everyday to recover and heal.